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A tour de force with your host Faith

I'm A Disney Princess

I've always admired Disney for being one of the first studios willing to put women in the forefront of story without making them glorified plot devices. Though I have to admit that I am not certain this was a purposeful act. Jeffery Katzenburg didn't think that "The Little Mermaid" would be a hit since it was targeted at girls. I am not sure who the other movies were targeted to then.

A princess needs a castle

Which leads me to ask this question who is your favorite? Mine personally would be a Mulan - though technically she isn't a princess - but she is one of the better of the Disney heroines.

But I always loved how her personal mission and goal was devoid of her romance. And how she just happened to fall in love with along the journey.

Mulan is also a favorite for being such a badass!

It's interesting that Mulan is the only "official Disney princess" that is not a princess by birthright or marriage. A "Disney Princess" is very different than a princess from Disney. It's a specific marketing bloc that Disney arbitrarily defines.

My best friend likes Moana and we have gone around about this before. Which is better Mulan or Moana? Mulan had the better character arch than Moana in my opinion. For one she was not expected to be anything more than a good child bearing wife, and that even if her parents treated her better than the cultural expectations did, there's still that idea that her options are limited.

Moana had chiefdom ahead of her and was encouraged/expected to be headstrong, confident, intelligent.

Anyone who grew up in a household or culture similar or the same as Mulan grew up in know how difficult it is to overcome that upbringing, because you're not just fighting against actual people and institutions or laws, you're fighting against the part of yourself that agrees with them.

Moana is good because She is determined, has a specific goal that benefits her people, not just herself. No romantic interest, teaches a demi-god a few lessons along the way. I love that she is preparing to actually lead the people and take on the responsibility.

I think often Disney portrays "princesses" as "somebody important, rich, and pretty but with relatively few responsibilities" in sch a way that it undermines the message. So what? Is the ultimate feminine ideal to be a beautiful decoration that doesn't have to do anything but look pretty? I think that is why Moana is strong, it shows a young woman who is poised to lead her people one day and understands/embraces the responsibility. But it still places her in a position of privilege. Mulan has to fight against different adversities in a more believable setting.

But that is just me.

So who's would everyone else be?

Making of a Marathon

Whenever I do marathons, I like to have a theme to connect the films in some way. Sorry if you thought that I was actually talking about marathons. Me? That is most certainly a nope. Anyway, I have a list going of different ideas, and they range from simple to complex(ish), but I'm always interested to see what others can come up with. Which is why I decided to layout some of the past marathons that I have gone. Some that I have thought about, and some that I would never want to sit through.

Marathon Woman

Some examples include:

The Galaxy Marathon:

  1. Galaxy Quest
  2. Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy
  3. Guardians of the Galaxy

The Cornetto Trilogy: (Simon Pegg)

  1. Shaun of the Dead
  2. Hot Fuzz
  3. The World's End

This could also be used as an example of a marathon for films written, directed and starring the same person. Robert Zemeckis is another good example of this category because you "Back to the Future" and a whole bunch of Tom Hanks movies to choose from.

Some other ideas include:

  • Movies featuring an actor's breakout role: Pretty Woman, etc.
  • Sports movies based on true stories (Boyfriend's suggestion, I am not a big sport film fan)
  • Nolan films (Boyfriend's suggestion. Again I don't like Nolan)
  • Coen brothers films
  • All of the Vacation movies
  • The Planet of the Apes original continuity. After the first one you may be tempted to skip the second entry because it is definitely the worst in the series, but I don't think that means you should skip it. The plot is relevant in the later films besides just the third one.

I think with streaming services like NF and H you really have more options now when it comes to watching these types of marathons. I remember when I was a teen we would come of with these sorts of ideas and we would try to rent them from BB but you often didn't find everything that you were looking for.

Beauty and the Beast: Not a Review

Stockholm syndrome is often batted around for being the theme for "Beauty and the Beast" but I disagree. While the definition for Stockholm syndrome can applied it has some facets that do not overlap with the Disney fairytale:

the psychological tendency of a hostage to bond with, identify with, or sympathize with his or her captor [1]

This would fit if the story only focused on the captivity aspect of the "relationship" though it goes further. Beast does release her so she can care for her ill father. This takes it out of the scope of pure Stockholm syndrome that tag that many like to place on the film.

That choice on the Beasts part is critical for me, and because of it it reminds me more of an abusive relationship than Stockholm.

Throughout the film we get a sense of bad moral being projected from the Beast. Yet the underlying message is that if you just love him enough he will change. He will go from a Beast to a Prince! This is not how an abusive relationship works. And that is the most disturbing part about it as a whole.

This is much more destructive than the Stockholm syndrome comparison since many women either find themselves currently in an abusive relationship or will find themselves in one at some point.

When you start having these views when watching an animated movie that is the moment you realized you're getting old.

Half A Year Old

My niece/nephew* has just turned six months old. Incredible how fast time goes by.

My sister was very clear what she was willing to let me share and what not. And this is one reason why I haven't posted any photos etc.. Even babies gender was taboo and I am respecting those wishes.

Six months old

When we were growing up personal boundaries were critical to our harmonious co-habitation of our household. Now that we have some space things are a lot more relaxed and I would go as far as saying they have become completely harmonious, something that our parents were never able to create.

As we were growing up it seemed like I was required to get on her nerves and I did do things to provoke a response from her. Now that isn't the case which is why I am more than happy to comply with her request here.

To say that half a year has gone by seems sort of trivial, but it really isn't. A lot happens in those first few months. A lot of development, though small, can be seen. From the initial weeks where I think my sister physically aged years to a steadily improving sleeping and eating rhythm to a bright inquisitive.

What has this really taught me?

Take things day by day.

Has my sister messed up sure. Anyone can and will mess up. It is simple to do but you can also learn from it. And most importantly, if you can't figure it out there are plenty of people you can ask for help/advice.

Look at it a a growing process, not just for the baby but for you as a parent as well.

Open Letter To Family

See the Forest through the trees

I am writing this because my sister won't.

Some of you have been getting vocal about what you believe to be "good parenting" in what you perceive as bad parenting on my sister's part. To be fair to her and her husband you would have to acknowledge that they live very far away from most of you.

So some of the things that I need to get off my chest and place out there in the open for everyone to get an idea of what my sis and SO are going through with new baby, and the trial of first time parents are:

  • When you come to visit:
    • You absolutely have to:
      • Changing baby. Sure it is cute, and a "once" in a lifetime chance for you. But baby isn't a doll. Besides that, will you want to change him when he is a toddler? My guess is no. So accept a no when my sister or her SO tells you politely no.
      • Feed baby. Ditto to the last point. It might be cute but baby has needs that somebody who hasn't done it before can't fulfill. They are not acting out of spite like some of you have tossed about.
      • They work full time, and yet they will make an effort to let you see baby. They just won't cook for you or go out to eat. If that works then you are welcome to visit. And if it is past eight in the evening forget it. That is bedtime for the whole family.

I know that you thought that the list would be harsh, and for some of you it might be, but these are reasonable expectations for you to respect. When you can't do that it isn't their problem.

Raising a baby is hard work, it is rewarding, and the more they get the hang of it I am sure parenting will get easier but right now they have their hands full and they would appreciate your understanding.

Animated Movie Marathon

Getting in shape for the marathon

I recently went on a big Disney nostalgia kick mostly because of the remake of Aladdin and just started watching the animated features in no specific order though I though about going through them in production order.

Wish me luck!